Setting boundaries for christian dating
They probably lived close to the temple, were actively involved, and yet they were so corrupt. The evil is already in the heart, the only thing the outside stimulus does is stir up the evil already there and make it come out. Does that mean that a Christian can do anything he wants without fear of being defiled? Was it the moment he touched Bathsheba or when he kissed her? It happens when we lose our focus on God.” (p 90) The "pure in heart" are given the promise that they "shall see God" (Matthew 5:8).Samuel grew up in the same environment and he turned out to be a godly man. If you are courting someone and you are alone in a room together, is it the privacy that causes you to stumble with your physical boundaries? Mark says “NOTHING outside can make a man unclean, but what comes out.” Did Jesus really mean NOTHING? YES – Because a Christian is one whose heart is filled with love for God and he wouldn’t want to do anything that would be contrary to glorifying Him. Did it happen the moment he saw her bathing and chose to watch instead of turn away? Maintaining physical boundaries is simply an outward expression of your heart’s desire to flee opportunities for compromise.When you say "I do" to the Lord and ask Him to be your Savior and Lord, you are disrespecting Him when you treat your body in a manner that He doesn't approve of. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you.7 For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life.They never watched murder on TV, they had parents who loved them, and nobody was around to create peer pressure, and yet it came naturally to Cain to kill Abel. We are born with a propensity to please self, protect self, and promote self.
He does not want to see his beloved child go through more heartache than need be. You can hide the fact that you're messing around with your boyfriend/girlfriend so you don't "set a bad example" or "bring disgrace" to your church or family, but that's not why you should stay pure. You are the body of Christ and Christ is holy.1 Thessalonians 4:3-8 says, "It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; 4 that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, 5 not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; 6 and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him.There have been a plethora of books, seminars, and conferences devoted to teaching physical purity (saving sex for marriage) and emotional purity (guarding your heart). There is no answer to these questions because purity is an issue of the heart, not conduct.This concept is taught by Jesus in Mark 7:1-23 when the Pharisees saw the disciples of Jesus eating without washing their hands.Unless you have really good reasons to motivate you, maintaining physical boundaries in your courtship will crumble like the walls of Jericho when you really like someone and have become emotionally close to them.I’ve known the most conservative, Bible believing, sincere, godly people get pregnant before marriage because the temptation to be physically intimate overpowered them.